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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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I’m Scared, And Don’t Want To Do It, But I Will Do It Anyway (Published 7-24-2012)


The man I lived with for 20 years died suddenly and unexpectedly. We were apart at the most 3 weeks in that time. I cannot process the kind of pain and deep loss I am feeling. To complicate matters, he was an obsessive controller. He shopped, did laundry, I was not even allowed to get the mail or see a bill. It has been 6 months and I am not able to function. I lie to my friends and say I paid my bills, and my mail box is full. I'm not lazy. I try, but there is this invisible source that stops me. Will this ever go away?

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